My boyfriend won’t wear a condom. Now what?
It can be difficult to talk about using condoms. But you shouldn't let embarrassment become a health risk. The person you are thinking about having sex with may not agree at first when you say that you want to use a condom. Below are some excuses and some answers that you could try...
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EXCUSE |
ANSWER |
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Don't you trust me? |
Trust isn't the point. People can have infections without realizing it. |
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It does not feel as good with a condom |
I'll feel more relaxed. If I am more relaxed, I can make it feel better for you. |
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I don't stay hard when I put on a condom |
I'll help you put it on, that will help you keep it hard. |
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I am afraid to ask him to use a condom. |
If you can't ask him, you probably don't trust him. |
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I can't feel a thing when I wear a condom |
Maybe that way you'll last even longer and that will make up for it. |
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I don't have a condom with me |
I do. |
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It's up to him... it's his decision |
It's your health. It should be your decision, too. |
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I'm on the pill, you don't need a condom |
I'd like to use it anyway. It will help to protect us from infections we may not realize we have. |
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It just isn't as sensitive and I can't feel a thing |
Maybe that way you will last even longer and that will make up for it. |
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Putting it on interrupts everything |
Not if I help put it on. |
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I guess you don't really love me |
I do, but I am not risking my future to prove it. |
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I will pull out in time |
Women can get pregnant and get STDs from pre-ejaculate. |
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But I love you |
Then you'll help us to protect ourselves. |
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Just this once |
Once is all it takes. |


